A Korean girl recently posted on an online community asking for advice on how to handle an awkward situation with her male friend of over 10 years.
“I have a male friend that I have known since kindergarten. Our parents are friends, so we have been close for a long time. Because we have been friends for so long, I’m not attracted to him. But about half a year ago, he confessed that he liked me. I was caught off guard, but I don’t feel the same way so I apologized and rejected him.”
She shared that she is currently being tutored by her friend because he does well at school.
“However, he studies really well and is probably one of the top 3 students in our school. I’m not good at math, so my mom asked him to tutor me. That’s why he started coming over to tutor me in math twice a week.”
The male friend would take advantage of the situation, and would touch her in inappropriate places.
“But when he sits near me to help me with my math problems, he would subtly touch my body. My breasts are larger than average, and he keeps grazing them with his arm. Yesterday he touched my butt.”
Because their families are close, she didn’t know what to do.
“I feel ashamed, but I’m afraid if I say something to him, it will damage our 10-year friendship. Our moms are close too. ㅜㅜ I think he’s touching me because he still has feelings for me. I have been patient with him for a few weeks now, but it is getting worse. What do I do? I can’t just cut him out of my life.”
Many people were supportive, giving their opinions on the situation.
[+212, -3] Slap him. It’s better not to see those type of people for the rest of your life.
[+198, -23] He’s a future criminal. What a disgusting boy.
[+174, -9] Tell him to stop touching you, and not to come anymore to teach you math. How can your mom expect you to learn from a friend? You can’t study that way.
But many netizens criticized the girl, even claiming that the situation was most likely made up.
[+56, -82] People like you are really dumb. If you don’t like it, just tell him. What are you doing posting it here.
[+13,-1] What is this, an internet novel?
[+11, -0] This is obviously a made-up story. No matter how well a student is doing at school, a mom would not ask their child’s friend to tutor them.
Due to the heavy backlash, the girl posted an update, clarifying the situation even further.
“It seems that many people think that I am lying, but I am telling the truth. Objectively speaking, it does read like a fictional internet story. But the male friend isn’t teaching me like at an academy, he will help me with the questions I don’t understand. Because he is a top student, my mom asked him to help me.”
She asked for people not to be frustrated with her and consider the long history between her and the male friend’s families.
“Going back to the subject, many comments are telling me to talk to my friend so I will. Many comments also express frustration with me, but if you haven’t been in my shoes, you shouldn’t judge me. I put a lot of thought into this situation, and it has stressed me a lot. It’s not easy to throw away a 10-year friendship, plus our parents have been friends for 20 years. I felt ashamed to tell my parents. If you cannot understand how I’m feeling, please just press back on your web browser.”
Finally, she shared her decision to confront the male friend.
“If he tries to touch me again, I am going to be bold and tell him then and there. Please support me.”
Here’s to hoping it works out for the girl!