It all began with one simple question: Is this feeling normal?
Back in 2018, on Dongguk University‘s Facebook page where the students can post anonymously, one male student “A” decided to ask if a certain emotion growing in his heart is normal.
He wrote, “Is it possible to suddenly develop feelings for someone you would have never thought of in a romantic way?” This question kept A sleepless for days, when his friend, “B”, created a total K-Drama moment between them two. A shared, “I didn’t know, but I guess I was about to step into a puddle. B pulled me toward him right before I did though — and I was so caught off guard that I ended up hugging him completely.”
It was B’s reaction to the hug that made A wonder:
You know, when that happens between two guys, they usually turn to being embarrassed. Right? I thought he would immediately push me away, but no. He said, ‘Be careful when you walk.’ Then he went on like nothing happened.
Keeping his identity hidden behind the anonymity, A asked.
Hyung. Why did you hug me that day? Don’t guys usually let their friend step in the puddle and make a fool? Why do you never bring your own umbrella? Why do you keep walking me to the subway station after class?
A consulted the internet to see if he was reading the signs all wrong. A couldn’t help but become more attracted to B every day following “the hug”, but he had never thought he could have feelings for a guy until then. Utterly confused, A wrote:
You might think I’m kidding, but I’m super serious… I can’t stop thinking about the scent from the hug… I’m so confused. I’ve never dated women before, but I also have never been attracted to men either. Do you think this is me being grateful? Hyung… You’re making things so difficult for me. Why do you do the things you do?
In the end, A confessed that he even postponed his military enlistment to see if he could spend more time with B on campus. He was deeply scared that he might ruin the friendship he had with B, thinking there is something going on between them two, but he also wanted to make meaning of it all if it indeed had any meaning.
What do you guys think? Should I tell him I like him? What if that makes him run from me? I’m happy with being where we are now. Getting to hang out with him is more than enough for me. But would I ruin everything if I started wanting more?
The long post ended there, driving Dongguk University students wild with curiosity. Most became super supportive of A and encouraged him to “seize the opportunity” with B and see where it takes the two. The drama really heightened when, in 2019, B found out about this very post that A shared in 2018. A revealed, in a follow-up post, that two months before he ended up enlisting to serve his military duty, he found out his original post had gone viral — enough for B to come across it as well.
So guys… B actually found out about the original post… And he talked to me about it one night, while we were hanging out at a park. He said I was the one who made things confusing for him too. Before the puddle incident, there was a time I took care of him because he got sick. When he saw me bringing him food and keeping him cool with a towel, he felt conflicted too. He didn’t know if he was burning up because he was sick or because he didn’t want me to leave. I will never forget the look on his face when he was telling me all of this…
With both of their feelings out in the open, the two began spending more time together. A said, “For the two final months before I had to leave for the military, we went on dates without calling them dates.”
We did everything that couples do, except physically. But we also came in contact the way normal guy friends would never. One time, at the ski resort, he held my hand pretending that he had lost his glove.
Unfortunately, A and B began drifting away with A’s enlistment. B didn’t show up at the base to say his final goodbye when A entered his military training. A was devastated, but there was nothing he could do. When A got his first chance to make a 3-minute phone call at the base, A dialed B’s number. B answered, but the conversation ended in a complete heartbreak.
When he answered the phone call, I told B that I was a little sad he didn’t show up. B said it was really hard for him too. We both cried. But then, B told me that he would rather not continue this ‘vague relationship’ anymore. I was shocked. I remember thinking I should have called my parents instead… I hung up on B and for the next three weeks that followed, we did not stay in touch.
A told netizens that he focused on finishing the military training. He thought he would move on — and like that, the month of military training passed. A believed it was over between him and B…
… except B showed up at the training completion ceremony!
He came up to me and put the Korean flag patch on my uniform. I cried my eyes out. He really surprised me. He told me that after he declared he didn’t want a vague relationship anymore and we fell apart, he had a really long month. He spent the month trying to decide if he wanted me as a friend or as a partner.
Finally, A shared that the two have since been happily in an official relationship. He thanked the university’s Facebook page for having been the very beginning of their miraculous relationship — and his partner B for coming into his life.
I don’t recall any comments that called us names and for that I am grateful. Thank you, everyone, for everything. And hyung, who continues to love me like no one has before, thank you for coming into my life. I’m glad we are each other’s firsts. I love you.
This love story remains one of the most legendary to have blessed Dongguk University’s Facebook page. The internet can actually be a wonderful place to find love sometimes, so it seems.